i can't stop laughing.... We are expecting our first one, entering the 'blue phase' ! Keep sharing;returning to your blog is always such a pleasing treat!
Oh lord.This sound so scary. I an pregnant with our first too mashAllah.But the stories i hear from all over are really scary.The way i feel we already need time to be "friends" again.I am perpetually tired and sleepy.As much as i want to think i will be the super mom type i doubt that will happen.I already have images of me coming to work and losing weight in two three months and being that super woman who looks amazing even after she has had children.but i look like a mess already.I come to work looking like a gypsy in completely outrageous clothes.and washing hair and blow drying hair is such a task.Sigh. I wonder what will become of me.I think i need the best of luck too.
Dolly, honey, DON'T DO THAT TO YOURSELF. Please, please lower those expectations. You'll survive and you'll learn a lot, but only if you give yourself the space to be a bumbling idiot for the first couple of years. I've learnt this the very hard way and am still having trouble implementing it because we all want to be the perfect mother and it's so difficult to keep falling flat on one's face. I've wasted a lot of time because of unrealistic expectations and missed so many amazing moments because I was sick with guilt and feeling bad about myself all the time. Please don't make the same mistake. The very best of luck to you!
*make metal note* give self space to become bumbling idiot.
Thank you hun.I will definitely remember those words.But i still envy the women who really are super moms.my cousin didn't even gain weight when she was expecting her first.It was justa tummy that literally went away the next day after her delivery.And she is now even skinnier than before.*sigh* I have had weight issues my entire life.Lets hope i get through this.And can concentrate on the bigger picture.thank you your blog always helps boost up spirits.
There you go. You have a tendency for weight gain (like me). Keep that in perspective when you look at your cousin. And Dolly, I am pleased for your cousin but honestly there is no *need* to look 'the same' after having a baby. You've had a baby. Wear the badge with pride. Don't be afraid to look like a mother!
It constantly amazes me what FABULOUS advice I'm full of while COMPLETELY screwing up my own life!!! Yaay!
ahhhhhh love this conversation!! u just made my life worth living (even wt those FEW extra pounds!) infact i've read this thrice already :D and Aafia i love the last line u wrote above!!! hahahaha, hats off for writing such a 'cool' blog :)
Battle with the flab is the story of my life...that too after the delivery is when I really packed on the pounds...The other day saw this pics of this starlet...delivered TWINS ...7 months later posted a picture of herself lounging by the pool in a bikini, with hubby and two babies on either side!!! Needless to say, I had the most uncharitable thoughts about her!!!!
Ah but the price that must be paid for that kind of weight loss, Anu. The price. Your kids have the right to be fed by you, and to feed your kids you have to eat. Simple.
That starlet also endorses being 18 again where the sun don't shine. I will NOT take body image advice from her. AND HO SAKTA HAI WO BACHEY USKE HO BHI NAHI. ( kahani me twist!)
i can't stop laughing.... We are expecting our first one, entering the 'blue phase' ! Keep sharing;returning to your blog is always such a pleasing treat!
ReplyDeleteGOOD LUCK is all I can say to you, my dear Mr. Virk! Good luck!
DeleteOh lord.This sound so scary. I an pregnant with our first too mashAllah.But the stories i hear from all over are really scary.The way i feel we already need time to be "friends" again.I am perpetually tired and sleepy.As much as i want to think i will be the super mom type i doubt that will happen.I already have images of me coming to work and losing weight in two three months and being that super woman who looks amazing even after she has had children.but i look like a mess already.I come to work looking like a gypsy in completely outrageous clothes.and washing hair and blow drying hair is such a task.Sigh. I wonder what will become of me.I think i need the best of luck too.
ReplyDeleteHats of to you seriously
Regards
Dolly
Dolly, honey, DON'T DO THAT TO YOURSELF. Please, please lower those expectations. You'll survive and you'll learn a lot, but only if you give yourself the space to be a bumbling idiot for the first couple of years. I've learnt this the very hard way and am still having trouble implementing it because we all want to be the perfect mother and it's so difficult to keep falling flat on one's face. I've wasted a lot of time because of unrealistic expectations and missed so many amazing moments because I was sick with guilt and feeling bad about myself all the time. Please don't make the same mistake. The very best of luck to you!
Delete*make metal note* give self space to become bumbling idiot.
ReplyDeleteThank you hun.I will definitely remember those words.But i still envy the women who really are super moms.my cousin didn't even gain weight when she was expecting her first.It was justa tummy that literally went away the next day after her delivery.And she is now even skinnier than before.*sigh* I have had weight issues my entire life.Lets hope i get through this.And can concentrate on the bigger picture.thank you your blog always helps boost up spirits.
Dolly
There you go. You have a tendency for weight gain (like me). Keep that in perspective when you look at your cousin. And Dolly, I am pleased for your cousin but honestly there is no *need* to look 'the same' after having a baby. You've had a baby. Wear the badge with pride. Don't be afraid to look like a mother!
DeleteIt constantly amazes me what FABULOUS advice I'm full of while COMPLETELY screwing up my own life!!! Yaay!
ahhhhhh love this conversation!! u just made my life worth living (even wt those FEW extra pounds!) infact i've read this thrice already :D
ReplyDeleteand Aafia i love the last line u wrote above!!! hahahaha, hats off for writing such a 'cool' blog :)
;-) Rock on, my dear!
DeleteHi Aafia:
ReplyDeleteBattle with the flab is the story of my life...that too after the delivery is when I really packed on the pounds...The other day saw this pics of this starlet...delivered TWINS ...7 months later posted a picture of herself lounging by the pool in a bikini, with hubby and two babies on either side!!! Needless to say, I had the most uncharitable thoughts about her!!!!
Ah but the price that must be paid for that kind of weight loss, Anu. The price. Your kids have the right to be fed by you, and to feed your kids you have to eat. Simple.
DeleteThat starlet also endorses being 18 again where the sun don't shine. I will NOT take body image advice from her. AND HO SAKTA HAI WO BACHEY USKE HO BHI NAHI. ( kahani me twist!)
ReplyDeleteWhaaaaaaat? More dirt, please!
DeleteCelina Jaitley. 18 Again.
ReplyDeleteBaaqi Aayenda
Oh God, really? I had no idea it was her. Why did I always imagine her to be really sensible?
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